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I often receive the question: “How to deal with difficult people and lead challenging conversations?” Typically, leaders already have the answers within them, but the most critical question to consider in planning the next steps, especially for leaders facing challenges with a team member, is: “Do I believe in this person?”

In moments of challenge, it’s vital to remember: it’s not the person who’s problematic, but the behavior. As leaders, our role extends beyond addressing issues, it’s about fostering belief.

Some time ago I heard the admission that the holistic regression therapy I do in addition to leadership training is not scientifically proven.

It’s true. A thing becomes scientific the moment the first academic paper is published, and an “unrecognised” thing thereby becomes “recognised”. But it doesn’t matter. It’s all about experience and my experience with this style of therapy has been life-changing:

In December 2020, I wrote down my so-called ideal life phrases in a notebook, because I had heard that what you tell yourself and where you put your energy, it will happen. It sounded absurd to a rational person, but I thought I’d give it a try. After all, there was nothing to lose, because there was no satisfaction in life anyway. I was supposed to earn money, and the opposite (money earns me) sounded like a nice idea, but far away. I wrote down the things that at the time were totally dream level.

“I’m happy and grateful to be able to give people the opportunity to shine a light into their true depths.”

This is the sentence I have formulated as my MIKS. A phrase that inspires me. It brings together my work as a deep-dive leadership trainer and therapist. At one point, when I was choosing between coaching and therapy, I chose therapy because I sincerely believe that we must first make peace with our past in order to come to terms with the present. And it is only when we have been able to be present in the present that we can create the future.