For years, my Friday evenings seemed pointless and wasted if I didn’t go “out”. Drinking out and looking for company. But you couldn’t stay home on a Friday night! It was no problem to finish several bottles of beer and a pack or two of smokes during the evening. I was proud of that. Sure, […]
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There is an animal or primal part of all of us that is dangerous to suppress, because it is like a lava that is always present in the core of the Earth, but comes out where we don’t want it to, hurting ourselves and others. Unexpected outbursts of rage or anger at things that are
Many of you will have read Gary Chapman’s book “The 5 Languages of Love”. The book is written in the context of intimate relationships, to help partners understand each other’s language of love, and then to monitor their own use of language in order to maintain and (re)develop the relationship. Or, if the languages are
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“I’m happy and grateful to be able to give people the opportunity to shine a light into their true depths.” This is the sentence I have formulated as my MIKS. A phrase that inspires me. It brings together my work as a deep-dive leadership trainer and future therapist. Yes, it is not worth digging in
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Which chapter are you in? In relationships, at work or wherever… Oh how much I have used the song below lately in my 1-1 work with clients, in advising management teams, not to mention in my own life when I see the same hole over and over again. Same pattern, different people. Same problems, different
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Authenticity, openness and being myself – a few weeks ago I heard anonymous feedback that there were too many dogs around me in roles where I was supposed to play someone else. These guys are such a big part of me and my authenticity, and authenticity is a value that I intend to amplify even
Theme with my dogs Read More »
As a trainer, I am constantly in contact with a lot of new people and that means there is a lot of getting to know you (who you are, what’s important to you, etc.). There is one worrying issue, which from personal experience I think is more of a threat, and which Nekrasov has written
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In 1997, there was one person in my life, thanks to whom I started to think that it was okay to be myself. Of course, it is only now, decades later, that I realise that this was an important starting point. But thanks to this person I went to study mathematics, thanks to this person
The people who shape you Read More »
Around New Year’s Eve, I wrote the following sentences in my notebook because I had heard that what you tell yourself and where you put your energy, that’s what happens. So I thought I’d give it a try. There was nothing to lose. I wrote down things that I knew were bigger than I would
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In July 2021, I attended the Good Life – Estonia’s first self-development festivaland share the thoughts that resonated with me most at that time. Maybe it will still speak to someone else, and every fragment will help us get closer to an even more alive self. Merit Raju:“Don’t prolong your suffering by sitting in inadequacy”“The
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