Once again, a nice stack of devotional books for Christmas gifts on their way! As Christmas approached, I was approached again by a manager who is giving my book to all his team members. Moments like these are somehow especially touching when someone sees that time with my thoughts could be a gift for someone! […]
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Is work/life balance enough? Not enough…
Below is a picture that I occasionally draw in training courses, and that’s where the photo comes from. Anyone who has been to my training courses knows that I draw a lot of triangles, and that one very important triangle is the work+life+recreation triangle.
If anyone remembers from 6th grade math, the sum of the angles of a triangle is 180 degrees, and if the angles are equal, they are all 60 degrees. As some angles get larger (for example 100 degrees, others get smaller).
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Some time ago I heard the admission that the holistic regression therapy I do in addition to leadership training is not scientifically proven.
It’s true. A thing becomes scientific the moment the first academic paper is published, and an “unrecognised” thing thereby becomes “recognised”. But it doesn’t matter. It’s all about experience and my experience with this style of therapy has been life-changing:
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In December 2020, I wrote down my so-called ideal life phrases in a notebook, because I had heard that what you tell yourself and where you put your energy, it will happen. It sounded absurd to a rational person, but I thought I’d give it a try. After all, there was nothing to lose, because there was no satisfaction in life anyway. I was supposed to earn money, and the opposite (money earns me) sounded like a nice idea, but far away. I wrote down the things that at the time were totally dream level.
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“I’m happy and grateful to be able to give people the opportunity to shine a light into their true depths.”
This is the sentence I have formulated as my MIKS. A phrase that inspires me. It brings together my work as a deep-dive leadership trainer and therapist. At one point, when I was choosing between coaching and therapy, I chose therapy because I sincerely believe that we must first make peace with our past in order to come to terms with the present. And it is only when we have been able to be present in the present that we can create the future.
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Am I OK if I’m not OK? When we seem serious, sad or otherwise unglued, people still occasionally ask “Is everything OK?”. It’s always heartwarming to know that despite sometimes feeling alone (it’s an okay feeling!), there are actually people who are there. Either by making their presence known, or by stepping away just in
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I can proudly stand up and say that I can manage on my own. But when the going gets tough, we all need support, or at least the feeling that we have it somewhere. Reading the news on the morning of the opening day of today’s war, I felt a crying sense of loneliness that
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In my life, the day in the picture was about a year ago. It changed my outlook, my state of being and my sense of self 180 degrees. Even though I thought I was more or less ok before, looking back I realise that it was preceded by a very long period of pain, sadness,
For years, my Friday evenings seemed pointless and wasted if I didn’t go “out”. Drinking out and looking for company. But you couldn’t stay home on a Friday night! It was no problem to finish several bottles of beer and a pack or two of smokes during the evening. I was proud of that. Sure,
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There is an animal or primal part of all of us that is dangerous to suppress, because it is like a lava that is always present in the core of the Earth, but comes out where we don’t want it to, hurting ourselves and others. Unexpected outbursts of rage or anger at things that are
