The thought that maybe it will really work out is perhaps the scariest thought of all. Not that I will fail. Just that I will succeed. That people will see. That I won’t be able to hide and complain like a victim anymore. Success is terrifying because then I have to carry the burden of […]
Fear of success as a coping mechanism for Estonians Read More »
Good podcast partner Reelika Jeferjev got me thinking recently in a comment on one of my previous posts. She shared her observation that conscience can be a double-edged sword. That there is a moral conscience – the inner voice of societal norms, beliefs and childhood expectations. And then there is the spiritual conscience – a
Are morality and conscience still synonymous? Read More »
During the weekend training, one participant asked that he was having a hard time remembering things lately. So what to do? I told him a story: A few years ago, I went to a therapists’ conference for the first time. Over a hundred people. Lots of talk, lots of stories from different countries, people, cases.
We don’t remember the facts, but the quality of presence! Read More »
The bear, the tram café, the outdoor kitchen and the wire fence – what links them, and is there a part of you that attacks you when you move towards your truth? I recently had a dream where I was in a tram café. Like moving – but comfortable, safe, even a bit stationary. I
The message in the dream was clear but frightening: “If you move, he will attack again.” Read More »
This question is something that many clients come to me with. Generally between the ages of 35-42 in this case, and having worked for a long time in some organisation, having done a career as a manager, at some point the stage trappings of the corporate game start to shine through and the question arises,
Should you continue in corporate debt at all and how? Read More »
We are still dealing with people, not money. Money is not a human need. Money is a tool, and the way we relate to it shows something deeper. Money does not solve relationships, but it reflects them – the relationship with oneself, with one’s origins, with one’s vocation, with the different layers of everyday life.
💸 Want a better relationship with money? Read More »
Sounds like maturity, right? Like the ability to be a bigger person, but in reality … the phrase is full of hidden struggle. “Smarter” implies a priori that someone is dumber. Perhaps with this sentence we do not solve the situation – we label, compare, measure. This generally leads to nothing but discomfort. One wins
🗯️ “Wiser gives way.” Read More »
This is a quote I heard one of the participants quote in turn. I was left thinking that it is a very true description of the mental heaviness that is rife in organisations. Mental exhaustion does not just come from workload. Indeed, it often arises primarily because people are not creating. Doesn’t create something that
We do not have a mental health crisis. We have a creative crisis Read More »
No, I don’t just mean the class of ticket. I’m thinking about life as a whole. Do you allow yourself moments where you don’t have to constantly prove yourself, where you have space to breathe, to stop and really be yourself? A conversation with a loved one reminded me how rarely we really allow ourselves
💺 Do you travel business class in your life? Read More »
Such a sentence was said by an expert in systemic management Jan Jacob Stam in one of his trainings, and of course for me as a leadership trainer AND therapist, it hits the nail on the head and creates a bridge between forward looking leadership and a therapist focused on deeper resolution of past traumas,
The potential can flow when the past is healed Read More »
