Am I OK if I’m not OK? When we seem serious, sad or otherwise unglued, people still occasionally ask “Is everything OK?”. It’s always heartwarming to know that despite sometimes feeling alone (it’s an okay feeling!), there are actually people who are there. Either by making their presence known, or by stepping away just in
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I can proudly stand up and say that I can manage on my own. But when the going gets tough, we all need support, or at least the feeling that we have it somewhere. Reading the news on the morning of the opening day of today’s war, I felt a crying sense of loneliness that
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In my life, the day in the picture was about a year ago. It changed my outlook, my state of being and my sense of self 180 degrees. Even though I thought I was more or less ok before, looking back I realise that it was preceded by a very long period of pain, sadness,
For years, my Friday evenings seemed pointless and wasted if I didn’t go “out”. Drinking out and looking for company. But you couldn’t stay home on a Friday night! It was no problem to finish several bottles of beer and a pack or two of smokes during the evening. I was proud of that. Sure,
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There is an animal or primal part of all of us that is dangerous to suppress, because it is like a lava that is always present in the core of the Earth, but comes out where we don’t want it to, hurting ourselves and others. Unexpected outbursts of rage or anger at things that are
Many of you will have read Gary Chapman’s book “The 5 Languages of Love”. The book is written in the context of intimate relationships, to help partners understand each other’s language of love, and then to monitor their own use of language in order to maintain and (re)develop the relationship. Or, if the languages are
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“I’m happy and grateful to be able to give people the opportunity to shine a light into their true depths.” This is the sentence I have formulated as my MIKS. A phrase that inspires me. It brings together my work as a deep-dive leadership trainer and future therapist. Yes, it is not worth digging in
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Which chapter are you in? In relationships, at work or wherever… Oh how much I have used the song below lately in my 1-1 work with clients, in advising management teams, not to mention in my own life when I see the same hole over and over again. Same pattern, different people. Same problems, different
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Authenticity, openness and being myself – a few weeks ago I heard anonymous feedback that there were too many dogs around me in roles where I was supposed to play someone else. These guys are such a big part of me and my authenticity, and authenticity is a value that I intend to amplify even
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As a trainer, I am constantly in contact with a lot of new people and that means there is a lot of getting to know you (who you are, what’s important to you, etc.). There is one worrying issue, which from personal experience I think is more of a threat, and which Nekrasov has written
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