Some things in working life do not need a new development plan. It needs… to be sent away to ‘die’. We are good at taking on new projects. New goals, new tools, new responsibilities, new tasks, etc. It’s what moving up the career ladder is all about – do more, you can do more – […]
We know how to take on, but we are not good at stopping and giving up. Read More »
As a subscriber to a training course, do you feel that this is a familiar question:👉 How can you make sure that the training doesn’t just remain a nice event and that after the training the managers don’t drown in their daily life again? The answer is not just in updating content or finding new
Leadership development needs meaning alongside wisdom Read More »
Leadership doesn’t start with management tools. Leadership starts with self-awareness. I don’t think it can be any other way, although I often see that it is thought that when a manager starts his job, he has to be given a huge amount of skills in a short period of time, to be trained, to be
Leadership starts with self-awareness. Read More »
Have you ever noticed that some leaders don’t lead/inspire, but as if to prove that they deserve to exist. Not consciously, but subconsciously. Such behaviours are often more visible from the outside, but of course it is only useful if we can see that part of ourselves. I have this pattern in me, I believe
When fear is in control, it is the subconscious, not the person themselves. Read More »
They take place at the level of the child and the parent. Not consciously, but subconsciously, so there is no need to look for blame here. It is an unconscious behaviour which, when it becomes visible, often causes serious and thoughtful looks on the faces of the leaders, but also, later on, a laugh of
Unfortunately, many leadership relationships do not take place between adult and adult. Read More »
Customer story: Leadership does not start with strategy. Leadership doesn’t start with strategy. The question is – are we guided by a subconscious part of ourselves or is it guiding us? Increasingly, I have seen how leaders’ actual choices, reactions and relationships are not based on what they know, but on what they do not
Leadership starts from the subconscious. Read More »
No, I don’t just mean the class of ticket. I’m thinking about life as a whole. Do you allow yourself moments where you don’t have to constantly prove yourself, where you have space to breathe, to stop and really be yourself? A conversation with a loved one reminded me how rarely we really allow ourselves
💺 Do you travel business class in your life? Read More »
Such a sentence was said by an expert in systemic management Jan Jacob Stam in one of his trainings, and of course for me as a leadership trainer AND therapist, it hits the nail on the head and creates a bridge between forward looking leadership and a therapist focused on deeper resolution of past traumas,
The potential can flow when the past is healed Read More »
I am reported to have said such a phrase at one of my leadership team meetings years ago, and I was reminded of it years later as a positive push-back phrase. At first it startled me, wondering if I had really allowed myself to say it, but then I realised that I still believe it
“So, very nice! We’re all fucked now. Shall we get to work?” Read More »
I used to feel a little uncomfortable as a trainer, and also as a leader, when someone said that at the end of a training or a joint discussion. Did I really not offer anything new? Was I not inspiring or thought-provoking enough? But – it’s one of the best compliments you’ll hear: “That was
It was a good reminder Read More »
