In December’ s Director, I wrote at length about the identity grief associated with change, because I see and believe that every change is a grieving process. Change is usually linked to a change in identity, and identity is our deepest layer, and when it is threatened, it brings up a lot of deep feelings […]
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The article was published on Personaliuudised.ee and Juhi5’s blog. Maslow’s hierarchy of needs ends in most textbooks with a level of self-fulfilment. Shortly before his death, Maslow added a self-transcendence, or a level of what might be called transpersonal. Since Maslow died a year later, and the supplement was published in a little-known journal, and
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For years, my Friday evenings seemed pointless and wasted if I didn’t go “out”. Drinking out and looking for company. But you couldn’t stay home on a Friday night! It was no problem to finish several bottles of beer and a pack or two of smokes during the evening. I was proud of that. Sure,
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There is an animal or primal part of all of us that is dangerous to suppress, because it is like a lava that is always present in the core of the Earth, but comes out where we don’t want it to, hurting ourselves and others. Unexpected outbursts of rage or anger at things that are
Many of you will have read Gary Chapman’s book “The 5 Languages of Love”. The book is written in the context of intimate relationships, to help partners understand each other’s language of love, and then to monitor their own use of language in order to maintain and (re)develop the relationship. Or, if the languages are
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I’ve often been asked in training and mentoring how to figure out what you like to do and what you could do in life. Of course there are excellent methods and guides for this (e.g. Gallup Strenghts, birth chart, personality tests, human design, IKIGAI, etc.), but over time I’ve developed what I call test questions:
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“I’m happy and grateful to be able to give people the opportunity to shine a light into their true depths.” This is the sentence I have formulated as my MIKS. A phrase that inspires me. It brings together my work as a deep-dive leadership trainer and future therapist. Yes, it is not worth digging in
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Which chapter are you in? In relationships, at work or wherever… Oh how much I have used the song below lately in my 1-1 work with clients, in advising management teams, not to mention in my own life when I see the same hole over and over again. Same pattern, different people. Same problems, different
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Authenticity, openness and being myself – a few weeks ago I heard anonymous feedback that there were too many dogs around me in roles where I was supposed to play someone else. These guys are such a big part of me and my authenticity, and authenticity is a value that I intend to amplify even
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Leaders are called into their roles with the aim of bringing about development through change and leaving behind a legacy of what I call leadership legacy: a trail in the development of people, the organisation and themselves. The role of the leader is to prepare the organisation for the next stage of development and to
The success of a manager is measured by the speed of redundancy of his own post. Read More »
