I have worked with people for a number of noble reasons. But at one point I realised that somewhere deep down there was another reason: the need to be noticed, to get attention. When it hit me, there was a flash of embarrassment. It made me ask myself, how much in my helping profession do […]
Is the need for attention a threat or an opportunity? Read More »
Data and analysis, or making sense of it, are necessary, but often organisations see endless data digging-questioning-exploring. Every meeting ends with the task of analysing new data. Decisions get stuck at the level of common sense and this hampers effectiveness. The need to understand seems innocent. Often, however, there is a deeper story behind it
Some things are never fully understood Read More »
This family stuff sounds like an expression of caring and unity. In reality, it often refers to the blurring of boundaries, the dispersal of responsibilities and subconscious dynamics that are not part of the work context. 💥 Work is not family. And it doesn’t have to be and it shouldn’t be. Even if it is
Dangerous sentence: “We are all one big family here at work.” Read More »
The thought that maybe it will really work out is perhaps the scariest thought of all. Not that I will fail. Just that I will succeed. That people will see. That I won’t be able to hide and complain like a victim anymore. Success is terrifying because then I have to carry the burden of
Fear of success as a coping mechanism for Estonians Read More »
Good podcast partner Reelika Jeferjev got me thinking recently in a comment on one of my previous posts. She shared her observation that conscience can be a double-edged sword. That there is a moral conscience – the inner voice of societal norms, beliefs and childhood expectations. And then there is the spiritual conscience – a
Are morality and conscience still synonymous? Read More »
During the weekend training, one participant asked that he was having a hard time remembering things lately. So what to do? I told him a story: A few years ago, I went to a therapists’ conference for the first time. Over a hundred people. Lots of talk, lots of stories from different countries, people, cases.
We don’t remember the facts, but the quality of presence! Read More »
The bear, the tram café, the outdoor kitchen and the wire fence – what links them, and is there a part of you that attacks you when you move towards your truth? I recently had a dream where I was in a tram café. Like moving – but comfortable, safe, even a bit stationary. I
The message in the dream was clear but frightening: “If you move, he will attack again.” Read More »
This question is something that many clients come to me with. Generally between the ages of 35-42 in this case, and having worked for a long time in some organisation, having done a career as a manager, at some point the stage trappings of the corporate game start to shine through and the question arises,
Should you continue in corporate debt at all and how? Read More »
We are still dealing with people, not money. Money is not a human need. Money is a tool, and the way we relate to it shows something deeper. Money does not solve relationships, but it reflects them – the relationship with oneself, with one’s origins, with one’s vocation, with the different layers of everyday life.
💸 Want a better relationship with money? Read More »
Sounds like maturity, right? Like the ability to be a bigger person, but in reality … the phrase is full of hidden struggle. “Smarter” implies a priori that someone is dumber. Perhaps with this sentence we do not solve the situation – we label, compare, measure. This generally leads to nothing but discomfort. One wins
🗯️ “Wiser gives way.” Read More »
