In my 1-1 meetings, I often see start-up managers who want to avoid burnout and learn to trust their team members more. Of course, it always makes me happy to see these issues early on in the journey. Quite often, however, our conversations go beyond these things. For example, the differences in the mindset of
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This is a phrase I overheard an orthopaedic surgeon, whose name I can’t remember, jokingly saying. And I was left thinking that the same thing applies in organisations. Leadership, and getting on in working life in general, is not just about structure, about what keeps us going. It also requires a backbone, an inner support
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I have worked with people for a number of noble reasons. But at one point I realised that somewhere deep down there was another reason: the need to be noticed, to get attention. When it hit me, there was a flash of embarrassment. It made me ask myself, how much in my helping profession do
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Data and analysis, or making sense of it, are necessary, but often organisations see endless data digging-questioning-exploring. Every meeting ends with the task of analysing new data. Decisions get stuck at the level of common sense and this hampers effectiveness. The need to understand seems innocent. Often, however, there is a deeper story behind it
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This family stuff sounds like an expression of caring and unity. In reality, it often refers to the blurring of boundaries, the dispersal of responsibilities and subconscious dynamics that are not part of the work context. 💥 Work is not family. And it doesn’t have to be and it shouldn’t be. Even if it is
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The thought that maybe it will really work out is perhaps the scariest thought of all. Not that I will fail. Just that I will succeed. That people will see. That I won’t be able to hide and complain like a victim anymore. Success is terrifying because then I have to carry the burden of
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“But why does a person become a bad or unpleasant leader?” This question came back to me from a comment on a previous post of mine, where Riin Kadarik raised the idea. No one becomes a leader “by accident”. Everyone is a leader for a reason. Whether it’s a need, a desire to prove themselves,
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Good podcast partner Reelika Jeferjev got me thinking recently in a comment on one of my previous posts. She shared her observation that conscience can be a double-edged sword. That there is a moral conscience – the inner voice of societal norms, beliefs and childhood expectations. And then there is the spiritual conscience – a
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During the weekend training, one participant asked that he was having a hard time remembering things lately. So what to do? I told him a story: A few years ago, I went to a therapists’ conference for the first time. Over a hundred people. Lots of talk, lots of stories from different countries, people, cases.
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The bear, the tram café, the outdoor kitchen and the wire fence – what links them, and is there a part of you that attacks you when you move towards your truth? I recently had a dream where I was in a tram café. Like moving – but comfortable, safe, even a bit stationary. I
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