This is a phrase I’ve heard from 5 customers recently. I understand that and sometimes agree that it is too early. I also understand that looking at leadership in a whole new way – not as a set of techniques, but as a consequence of the inner world of the person – can seem daunting. But nevertheless, a person is first and foremost an EXISTENCE, not an INTENTION, and this could give courage to do otherwise.
🚨 We train managers on the same topics and wonder why real change doesn’t happen.
We will talk again about change management, delegation, resistance, roles, increasing effectiveness, motivation, development reviews, performance management, time management, etc. These are important and necessary topics, which I also talk about myself, …
… but if we don’t get to the deep and subconscious meaning of these words, nothing happens. Theories remain theories. Group work remains an experience on training day, but… next year we will order a new training because there was no change.
It did not change because the person’s past held him back.
A person changes when he gets a mirror – when someone helps him to see why he drives the way he does, what drives him, what he runs away from, where he dares not look, why his BEING is the way it is, what he DOES and whether he feels he has the choices to carry out his will.
TAHE is one of the most difficult issues. It is precisely the resolution of will that we need in every person and organisation. Yet it is one of the things we do least because we dare not look at the question of why we DON’T DO.
In broad generalisations, we teach in leadership training how leaders should be different, and how to change others in the name of “leadership”. We have all tried to fix our mate at home. Unfortunately, there are no known cases where this has been successful. 😁 Why do we think this works in leadership?
🎯 We don’t just need new knowledge. We need new spaces – safe and aware spaces where the driver, as a human being, understands what is going on inside. At a very deep level – a beautiful and pure level.
You could say that my approach is this space – holistic and trauma-informed.
It doesn’t start with what the leader should do – it starts with what’s going on inside them.
It’s an approach that doesn’t build the leader from the outside, but from the inside.
And how great are the training courses where it all lives and creates. In general, people are more ready for it than people think. Especially men, who are braver to face their fears. It is the various fears that hold back the will to lead and to act in the present.
💡 If this idea already resonates with you, maybe it’s not a question of whether you’re ready. Maybe it’s a question of whether you’re ready to postpone what you can already see the significance of, but just don’t dare?
