The first temptation is to diagnose (e.g. narcissist) a highly egocentric, aggressive and unemotional leader.
Diagnosis, however, is generally not so much a question of acceptance of responsibility as of politeness.
But in life, many of us come across leaders who run over people, only highlight their own achievements and direct people to admire themselves and do their own thing.
With the psychologically over-aggressive, you need to set clear boundaries, learn to say NO and keep a professional distance.
The most important thing is to set clear boundaries.
As a therapist, I can see that this is not something we are generally very strong at.
There is no point in hoping that the other person will change.
Even if it is a narcissistic personality disorder identified by a specialist, it is difficult to treat even if the person wants treatment.
In general, they do not.
We always have a choice – if we’re strong enough boundary-setters and use the experience to develop our own personal boundary-setting, you can do super-high things together with this type of leader.
Because they’re wild in a good way, and they create something that no one else dares to do.
They are creating new value through the necessary revolution where most want to do as has been done all along.
And being alongside it teaches us a lot about boldly setting and pursuing our own personal goals.
There is much to learn from them.
Yes, it’s also very hard and to do that you have to be willing to endure and accept such a style without losing yourself at the same time.
Retrieved from Reelika and Itackle the topic in the 121st episode of our “Leadership without Leadership” podcast.
Listen and think.
At the beginning of the podcast we focus on the classical approach, at the end we bring new perspectives.
What is your experience?
