In July 2021, I attended the Good Life – Estonia’s first self-development festivaland share the thoughts that resonated with me most at that time. Maybe it will still speak to someone else, and every fragment will help us get closer to an even more alive self.
Merit Raju:
“Don’t prolong your suffering by sitting in inadequacy”
“The only one who can be like that and behave the way you want people to behave or be…. is yourself.”
Inga Lunge:
“Don’t ask WHO? If you already know what you want, always ask HOW.”
“Don’t try to live life, let life live through you!” (quoting a Portuguese teacher)
The link between the performance of Rivo Sarapik:
When we introduce ourselves, we often introduce ourselves through someone else’s brand (e.g. the company where we work). It’s a good layer of protection against not being yourself. We’re still well ‘up to speed’ within the company, so we don’t have to deal with ourselves. Are you really an employee of the XXX joint stock company or have you covered yourself with the outer layer of this organisation and the role you play there. But is it really you?
Marilyn Jurman:
“You don’t have to search for the meaning of life and make sense of it all the time. Be present and seize the opportunities!”
3 control questions for yourself: Do you love what you do? Are you good at it? Does anyone need it?
Epp Kärsin:
“Sex and money are the main topics of break-ups. It is worth having a conversation about this 2x a year, to see if what you still want and what you are still experiencing are the same.”
“A relationship is like a successful business, it has to be consciously managed EVERY DAY.”
“The third person comes alongside the relationship in order to either save the relationship that has been let go or to let the relationship dissolve completely, so that ‘one’s own person’ can then be found.
Raivo Ilmsalu:
“Conflict is the heart of love”
All relationships, and all topics in relationships, go through 4 phases: dating (me-language), conflict (you-language), reconciliation (me and you), love. This cycle is subject to each major topic. Love CREATES through these phases, and for that you need a conflict phase.
“Love is not found, it is created.”
Merit Raju’s thought at the very beginning of the festival really resonated with me: ‘Don’t be egoistic to keep the story of your own self-development to yourself, because others may need to hear that story for their own development.'”
