During the weekend training, one participant asked that he was having a hard time remembering things lately. So what to do? I told him a story:
A few years ago, I went to a therapists’ conference for the first time. Over a hundred people. Lots of talk, lots of stories from different countries, people, cases. Some moments stuck in my mind, most of them faded away, as usual.
Several years later, I went again to the same event, where the participants were mostly the same. And right at the door, I was greeted by one of the speakers from the previous event, a true corker in the field. He looked me in the eye, addressed me by name, hugged me and asked me some rather personal questions that I had shared years ago at a dinner table with a dozen other people sitting around a long table with their stories.
I was honestly completely shocked. How did he remember everything? At that conference a couple of years ago, I was very new to the field, I was rather quietly ‘walking the wall’, or in short, I wasn’t the life of the party that everyone would remember.
A few days later I asked him directly, “How do you have such a memory?” He looked at me calmly and said, as if it were a matter of course:
“Ivar… you know the brain is holographic. The most important thing is presence. When you are really present with a person, you are on the same wavelength with them. And when you meet again, that wave is still there. The information is there. You don’t have to remember it – you’re just there again. It’s that wave that the information comes from, and not from a drawer of facts, as is generally believed.”
Indeed – we have nothing to do with memory training. Scientists have long been able to describe the hologram and the holographic nature of the brain in quantum physics, and have confirmed that it is presence and the ability to concentrate that are the most important things to learn. And then what is heard is ‘remembered’, or more accurately – a connection is maintained with the wavelength where the necessary past factual information resides. But first you need to get there and not be in several places at once with your attention.
How many times did your attention wander while reading this post? Did you even get to the end or did your attention wander before you got here? If you did, it was already a great workout!
