It was a summary of my life in spring 2020. Suddenly, everything that had mattered – passion for the work, the work itself, the relationship, one of the dogs dead, my mother dead, my grandmother gone, no family, no friends, no hope for a better life – was gone.
There seemed to be no more choice. Sure, there was a great home and a little savings, plenty of body fat to stay alive. In material terms, everything had been achieved. Everything seemed to be there, but there was not much appetite to go further. The quality of life was superficially excellent, internally terrible.
And then you’re there – a man who is not a man.
And then, by coincidence, I ended up learning to be an even better employee – I wanted to become an even better manager and learn to be a therapist, because managers need to know psychology. I realised that psychology is something that can make you even more successful (ahem, prosperous). But to get on that path, I had to go through 14 months of training called holistic training, which was about self-development.
I thought, okay. If it has to, it has to. I’ll go through with it if I have to. With only the desire to help others in mind.
And then it began – holistic training, preceded by 4 therapy sessions. Oops, something felt very different. After the first therapy sessions, I sought out my paternal family, I had a family where I belonged. After the first session, I realised that there was something bigger in the world than what I had thought. I realised that I existed too.
After 14 months, the wounded boy inside became a leader in his own life, who dared to express himself. I realised and experienced through those 14 months of training that if I have no purpose in life, I am driven by other people’s purposes. I learnt what I want and what my purpose is, I learnt what it means to be a man and that I am still a man, I learnt to take responsibility and to give it away, I learnt to control my impulsiveness, I found friends and family.
Of course, it was just the beginning of a journey, but if there was no beginning, there would be no journey. Today we took In the 122nd episode of our podcast “Leadership without Leadership”, Reelika and Idiscuss why men get into self-development, why men get in touch with themselves, and talk about changing their own lives.
At the end, we will also get to the picture. For some time now, I have been the one who has been teaching this course at the Institute of Holistics. And now, for the first time ever, we’re starting in January with a group just for men. A total of about 20 men are invited to come and join us on a journey that will truly take your life to a whole new level.
If you are interested, you can find all the information on the Holistics Institute website or by writing to me.
