I have. On days when there is no uncertainty, I have seen that person in the mirror. Confidence often moves between inferiority and superiority, creating challenges at both ends of relationships. At one moment, we make ourselves invisible (especially in front of authorities), or we puff ourselves up like a peacock to appear important, valuable, and significant. Deep inside the submissive and angry person who puffs up, there is often a wounded child who has not received enough attention.
Of course, neither extreme is healthy, and if you recognize yourself, it’s important to deal with it. Often, the roots lead back to relationships with our first authority figure, usually the father, but often also the mother if she has had to or wanted to play the role of the father.
We discussed this topic today with Reelika Jeferjev on our podcast “Juhtimine juhtimiseta” (in Estonian). Listen, think along, and look into yourself – how do you deal with insecurity or overconfidence, and why do such people come into your life, who are too self-assured for you?
For those who want to delve deeper into this topic within themselves, having walked a long journey on this topic myself, I am happy to support you as a therapist or mentor.
