{"id":6621,"date":"2024-09-26T19:02:09","date_gmt":"2024-09-26T17:02:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ivarraav.com\/uncategorized\/how-to-deal-with-a-psychologically-aggressive-manager\/"},"modified":"2024-09-26T19:05:08","modified_gmt":"2024-09-26T17:05:08","slug":"how-to-deal-with-a-psychologically-aggressive-manager","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ivarraav.com\/en\/governance\/how-to-deal-with-a-psychologically-aggressive-manager\/","title":{"rendered":"How to deal with a psychologically aggressive manager?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>The first temptation is to diagnose (e.g. narcissist) a highly egocentric, aggressive and unemotional leader.\nDiagnosis, however, is generally not so much a question of acceptance of responsibility as of politeness. <br\/><br\/>But in life, many of us come across leaders who run over people, only highlight their own achievements and direct people to admire themselves and do their own thing.<br\/><br\/>With the psychologically over-aggressive, you need to set clear boundaries, learn to say NO and keep a professional distance.\nThe most important thing is to set clear boundaries.\nAs a therapist, I can see that this is not something we are generally very strong at.  <br\/><br\/>There is no point in hoping that the other person will change.\nEven if it is a narcissistic personality disorder identified by a specialist, it is difficult to treat even if the person wants treatment.\nIn general, they do not.  <br\/><br\/>We always have a choice &#8211; if we&#8217;re strong enough boundary-setters and use the experience to develop our own personal boundary-setting, you can do super-high things together with this type of leader.<br\/><br\/>Because they&#8217;re wild in a good way, and they create something that no one else dares to do.\nThey are creating new value through the necessary revolution where most want to do as has been done all along.\nAnd being alongside it teaches us a lot about boldly setting and pursuing our own personal goals.\nThere is much to learn from them.\nYes, it&#8217;s also very hard and to do that you have to be willing to endure and accept such a style without losing yourself at the same time.    <br\/><br\/>Retrieved from  <a href=\"https:\/\/www.linkedin.com\/in\/ACoAABbfnoYB6Cl-2cMmdzMF46BsuRa6uTIxSb0\"><\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/www.linkedin.com\/in\/reelika-jeferjev\/\">Reelika and I<\/a>tackle the topic in the 121st episode of our &#8220;Leadership without Leadership&#8221; podcast.\nListen and think.\nAt the beginning of the podcast we focus on the classical approach, at the end we bring new perspectives.  <br\/><br\/>What is your experience?<\/p>\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"800\" src=\"https:\/\/ivarraav.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/09\/Ivar-Raav-agressiivsest-kolleegist.jpeg\" alt=\"Ivar Raav on coping with a psychologically aggressive colleague\" class=\"wp-image-6618\" title=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/ivarraav.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/09\/Ivar-Raav-agressiivsest-kolleegist.jpeg 800w, https:\/\/ivarraav.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/09\/Ivar-Raav-agressiivsest-kolleegist-300x300.jpeg 300w, https:\/\/ivarraav.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/09\/Ivar-Raav-agressiivsest-kolleegist-150x150.jpeg 150w, https:\/\/ivarraav.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/09\/Ivar-Raav-agressiivsest-kolleegist-768x768.jpeg 768w, https:\/\/ivarraav.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/09\/Ivar-Raav-agressiivsest-kolleegist-600x600.jpeg 600w, https:\/\/ivarraav.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/09\/Ivar-Raav-agressiivsest-kolleegist-100x100.jpeg 100w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/figure>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The first temptation is to diagnose (e.g. narcissist) a highly egocentric, aggressive and unemotional leader. 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